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Dana Point Harbor 12/28/17 ( The 30th Birthday )

Dana Point Harbor 12/28/17 (The 30th Birthday)

(Thursday, January 4, 2018) The holidays have come to a close and, at the same time, I happily closed out my third decade of life. If you asked me how I felt about this milestone in November, it wouldn't have been well thought out or even meaningful. Come December an event transpired that forced me to re-evaluate the last decade of my life and what I learned. 

Some thoughts (In no particular order... or even that unique): 

  • Start each year by compiling a new short and longterm list of goals and objectives. Check in on them repeatedly and be sure to check items off as you accomplish them. Stray from distraction and reflect on what you did and didn't accomplish.
  • Go with the flow. What you may want in life isn't necessarily what you'll get. Welcome change as you'll discover new dreams and passions along the way. 
  • The valleys (Lows) in life never go away BUT the peaks (Highs) make up the difference. It may not always feel like it but it does get better... even if you feel like you're in the Mariana Trench. 
  • Pursue your dreams no matter how odd they may seem. Our time on this earth is too short to care about what other people think.
  • If you want to be something... Stop saying it and start doing it... It really is that easy. No excuses.
  • Recognize your gifts and your flaws. Work on improving both. 
  • Don't let your career define who you are... a work/life balance is imperative. 
  • Live uncomfortably in order to live more. Do things that push you outside your comfort zone and toward new perspectives. In those moments you'll find yourself and greater knowledge.  
  • Be creative! Whether you realize it or not, you do something creative everyday. Embrace it, challenge yourself in new areas and show the world your gifts. 
  • Tell stories! Share your vision. We need better distractions from reality or, at least, better ways to share unique perspectives. THIS may be the difference in a person's life. 
  • Be different! There are too many other people conforming to some invisible, socially acceptable standard. We need change makers not sheeple.
  • Love with all your heart. No one is perfect. If the feeling isn't reciprocated, you're not necessarily the problem. This is just part of life. 
  • Don't surround yourself with people or vie for the affection of others to ignore personal problems. Be comfortable with yourself, by yourself. 
  • Understand and feel other people's pain and problems. Sometimes there is more than meets the eye. Whether you like it or not, you are your brother (or sister's) keeper. Love one another. Just a smile can be the difference in someone's life. 
  • Let go of toxic relationships. People are going to use you. They're going to pretend they care.
  • Take a moment to discern who truly cares about you and has your best interest at heart. Be sure to reciprocate that care and concern when you find someone that special.
  • Go where you're appreciated. Know when to walk away. Surround yourself with people that make you a better person.  

That barely scratches the surface BUT a new year has arrived and opportunity knocks. I look forward to sharing more as time presents itself. 

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and Iā€”
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
— Robert Frost
Evan Chaffee